I see how you’re wanting to start your self-love journey (hell yeah, you!)…. but I also see that something is holding you back.
Do you feel it?
You don’t need to be ashamed.
You’re not alone. It’s not just you who has trouble jumping both feet first into the idea of body positivity. To make that first leap is a scary thing, and it relies feeling the fear and doing it anyway.
Let’s talk a little bit about fear. What are you afraid of?
Judgement from others?
What if your friends/family are unsupportive?
What happens if self-love doesn’t work for you?
What happens if you miss self-loathing?
What if self-love doesn’t feel like what you think it will feel like?
What if it takes longer than you want it to?
Or what if you never get there at all?
Will it be hard?
Will you have to change your whole life?
What if it brings revelations that you’re not yet ready to cross?
Will you ever be ready?
What if everyone else is good at it and you get left behind?
Is fear holding you back from self-love?
Our negative thoughts are experts and bringing forward doubt, judgement, insecurity and fear. Those negative thoughts, you see, thrive on holding us back because when we move forward, we don’t need to rely on that negativity as much.
That negativity wants to be our lifeline. It tells us that it’s keeping us grounded, but really it’s holding us back.
Now, those fears are all perfectly legitimate, exceedingly common and you definitely do not need to feel bad about feeling them. Having those doubts doesn’t make you any less committed or deserving of self-love, nor does it mean that you’re destined to fail.
What does it mean?
It means that you have a choice, right here and right now.
You get to choose what happens next – will you choose to sit and ruminate with those fears a little longer, or will now mark the moment that you feel the fear and do it anyway?
(Note: Both answers are totally okay! There’s no wrong way to approach it and you’re sure as hell not about to be kicked out of the self-love club if you choose that you’re not quite ready. There’s always room for you here, and you can sit with us.)
But, if you’re feeling slightly more on the ‘ready’ scale, then it’s time to move forward.
In moving forward, there might still be some chains of fear that hold you back, and that’s okay! Acknowledge those fears, and move forward at your own pace and in your own time.
To help you get past those final fear hurdles, I want you to ask yourself a couple of questions:
1. If you were to live out the rest of your life and never experience body positivity or self-love, how do you think that would make you feel?
2. If you did choose to make a conscious effort to focus on self-love, what would change in your life?
Finally, I’ll leave you with this thought:
How many people have you heard of that have made the decision to focus on self-love and regretted it?
If you’re ready to make the leap and give self-love a try, I’m here for you! It’s okay if you don’t yet quite know how to make that happen, because I’m going to give you the tools to help you get there.
We’re going to do this together, okay?
Life begins right here, right now…. are you in?