20 things everyone should know about eating disorders.
For this year’s Eating Disorders Awareness Week, NEDIC gave me the honour of kicking off a week of information, discussion & spreading awareness with this article. We’re all likely to encounter someone with an eating disorder at some point in our lives, so please please read this. I’ll consider it a personal favour!
On calling bullshit when you need to.
“We all need to be on Asshole Alert when it comes to some of the online liberties that are being over-exercised. If you think, “Hey, all’s fair in the digital world and I’ll do what I want,” well, that’s just not very grown up. That’s just very asshole.”
If you’ve ever been in an abusive relationship, you might resonate with this.
It’s possible to find your self-worth. And necessary.
Because your iPhone is ruining your posture and your mood.
AI may soon reply to your email for you.
Welcome, AI overlords. Welcome.
Is it okay to listen to R-Kelly?
On enjoying the music of someone who you think is a straight up horrible person.
“The hetero (and non-hetero, but, let’s face it, mostly hetero) sex on offer to young women is not of very high quality, for reasons having to do with youthful ineptitude and tenderness of hearts, sure, but also the fact that the game remains rigged. It’s rigged in ways that go well beyond consent. Students I spoke to talked about “male sexual entitlement,” the expectation that male sexual needs take priority, with men presumed to take sex and women presumed to give it to them. They spoke of how men set the terms, host the parties, provide the alcohol, exert the influence. Male attention and approval remain the validating metric of female worth, and women are still (perhaps increasingly) expected to look and fuck like porn stars — plucked, smooth, their pleasure performed persuasively. Meanwhile, male climax remains the accepted finish of hetero encounters; a woman’s orgasm is still the elusive, optional bonus round. Then there are the double standards that continue to redound negatively to women: A woman in pursuit is loose or hard up; a man in pursuit is healthy and horny. A woman who says no is a prude or a cock tease; a man who says no is rejecting the woman in question.”
The couple courtroom game.
Oh man, YES. Most people in relationships are guilty of this, myself included. Brb, flipping my perspective ASAP.
7 things you should never say to someone with an eating disorder.
My latest for Wear Your Voice Magazine – we all benefit from this information, so read up!
The symbolism of eyeliner.
This is fascinating!
Fake instagrams = Finstagrams.
Good lord. I think it’s time to unplug, people.
We all do it sometimes!
“Because happiness is not a choice, when people are told to be happy and they’re unable to achieve a happy state (because they’re in a bad situation, because they have a chemical imbalance that doesn’t allow them to be happy often, or for any other reason), they feel like failures. If happiness is promoted as something that can just be chosen, like pulling an item off a store’s shelf, those who cannot seem to “choose” it feel as though there is something wrong with them. On the other hand, if you were to suggest to someone who is struggling that s/he “think positively” (accompanied by suggestions for how to actually do it), those words might actually be useful and encouraging. Happiness is not an action that can simply be chosen, and suggesting it is can actually cause feelings of frustration, confusion, and even self-loathing.”
Feminist artists on Tumblr.
Some awesome inspiration here.
On the rise and fall of Ronda Rousey last year.
“Maybe the root of the Rousey backlash is misogyny; we just can’t get enough of seeing an unapologetically powerful woman humbled by a more acceptable femininity, personified.”
On the aggression of punctuation, particularly the full stop.
This is a good (and fascinating) read!
Thin privilege is still alive and well.
Here’s how to identify it.
“I am committed to doing a better job in the second half of our life. I promise that I will support you more willingly and gratefully as we approach the other side of middle age.I will trustfully stay out of your way when you need to accomplish something majestic, and will listen to you when you have specific needs. I will keep you moving, gently care for you, and show you off with pride.Not because you’re beautiful — which you are, without question — but because I can’t have this life without you.”
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