I get a lot of messages asking me about my weight.
But that’s also the very reason why I won’t post my weight.
I disclose a lot about my life, my mental health, my struggles and my body. But I’ve often avoided mentioning my weight in numbers.
And although I see other activists and other members of the body positivity community posting their “before” and “after” photos and readily sharing their weights, BMI’s and other personal body details, that’s something that I won’t ever do.
Whenever someone asks me to reveal my weight and I politely decline,
- They assume that I’m embarrassed about my weight.
- They assume that I’m lying and that my photos aren’t really of me.
- They assume that I’m currently struggling with my weight and am currently fatter/thinner than I “should” be.
But I can assure you, none of those things are true. And still, I will not disclose my weight.
Because we don’t need to compare.
Because my body is my body, and your body is your body. And at X kilograms my body might be totally different from your body at X kilograms. The comparison is irrelevant.
Because I am not someone’s inspiration as a “before” or “after” picture.
Because I’ve previously been so damn focused on the number on the scale, and I sometimes still need to remind myself to switch off that compulsion – I don’t want to reinforce my own negative patterns.
Because the numerical figure on my mass doesn’t define me. And it doesn’t add to the conversation about body image. And because ultimately, for those struggling with ED’s or body image issues in a general sense, seeing those numbers can be very triggering. Sometimes, all it takes is seeing someone’s weight written down, which is very similar to yours, to start internalising all these negative comparison-based feelings of why they look a certain way and you look different.
If someone asks you your weight, don’t be afraid not to say anything.
Non-disclosure doesn’t have to indicate that you’re ashamed or embarrassed. Reframe it, and make sure that whether or not you choose to disclose your weight is on your terms.